Tuesday, September 14, 2010

His Tears...

I had an interesting conversation with a co-worker last week.

He shared with me that he and his wife had been trying to have a baby for the past three years. But what really moved me the most about our conversation was how emotional he became when sharing their story.

Although I know that infertility affects  a couple, it is so easy to forget that our husbands are hurting just as much as we are.

As a little girl, I grew up believing that my dad was the strongest man ever. I can still recall the first time I ever saw him cry...it was right after I received the news of being honored as the top officer on my dance team in high school. He was so overwhelmed with pride that he shed tears of joy because of his daughter's accomplishments.

About 14 years later, I met my husband. After learning about his childhood, how he lost his father in a helicopter accident at the age of only 1 year old and that he lost one of the most influential people in his life to cancer, his grandfather, I couldn't think of anything more heartbreaking. I truly believed nothing else in this world could ever cause him to cry after all his experiences. But on September 17, 2005 I saw him cry for the first time. He was shedding tears of joy because he was watching his wife walk down the aisle.

All these memories rushed through my mind as I sat with my co-worker and watched him shed tears of frustration and helplessness as he shared their story of infertility. It made me realize that I'm not the only one that is hurting here.

This conversation also made me hopeful...hopeful for the day that two of the most important men in my life shed tears of joy at the news that we will be parents.


Heather said...


This is sooo true. My husband is more sensitive than some men, and when he cries over the babies we keep loosing doing IVF, it truly breaks my heart. They are hurting along with us, ao its important to remember that through our own pain.

Praying for you!!

Ashley said...

Great post- so true! My husband is a pretty emotional guy. He gets choked up telling others about our embryo adoption.
By the way-we got married September 24, 2005!

Laura Ann said...

Praying for David along with you as you travel down this road together.

The crying never stops. Curtis is moved to tears regularly just talking about our children or witnessing the little things they do. It is awesome to have a husband and Daddy who are both so in touch with their emotions.

I know that God has big blessings in store for you and David and will reveal his plan in due time. I think you would be suprised all the people that are hurting right along with the two of you and want so badly to CELEBRATE with you guys as ya'll become parents.

Forever prayerful for all of you!

Giggles said...

My husband cried as much as I did when our son was stillborn and when we lost two other babies to miscarriage. I sometimes forget that he has been by my side during 10 years of trying and that it has hurt him as much as it has hurt me. I continue to pray that the next time I see him crying is when our child is born and he gets to hold the baby. I pray that this day is in the near future for us.

Lauren said...

Lianna, this reminds me to pray for both you AND your husband!!!!! Thinking of y’all and love you, girl!!!

Melissa said...

It takes strength and weakness for a man to cry and it is a testament to his heart.

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